Paul writes to the Ephesians that men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and wives are to respect their husbands.
Love your wives as Christ loved the church! This kind of love isn’t a feeling. It’s a choice.
And how did Christ love the church? He heard from the Father what He was to do and say to the church, and He obeyed His Father. Jesus’ love required action.
Jesus’ Love In Action
- He emptied Himself of His glory to become a man.
- He revealed God’s kingdom.
- He revealed the image of God.
- He lived with His disciples.
- He fed the multitudes.
- He taught His followers.
- He healed the sick.
- He raised the dead.
- He touched the leper.
- He cast out demons.
- He held the children.
- He calmed the storm.
- He wept over Jerusalem.
- He washed dirty feet.
- He turned water to wine.
- He honored women.
- He prayed for you and me.
- He forgave the people for crucifying Him.
- He died for the world.
- He saved us from eternity in hell.
- He saved us to live with Him forever.
- He sent the Holy Spirit.
- He speaks on our behalf to the Father.
- He is preparing a dwelling place for us.
- He will come back for us.
Jesus chose to love, and His love took action.
In Titus 2:4, the older women are instructed to teach the younger women to love their husbands and children. Both husbands and wives are to love each other.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends [or fails].
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Notice that “love” takes action.
What Love Is Not
- Does not envy or boast
- Not arrogant or rude
- Does not insist on its own way
- Is not irritable or resentful
- Does not rejoice at wrongdoing
- Never fails—doesn’t end
What Love Is
- Patient and kind
- Rejoices with the truth
- Bears all things
- Believes all things
- Hopes all things
- Endures all things
Can you replace the word “love” with your name?
When the Love Needs Renewal
But, you say, I don’t love her any more. You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’.
Love is a command. It’s nice to have the feeling, but love takes action, whether you fell all warm and fuzzy inside. Love is a choice.
In Revelation 2:1-5, Jesus tells the church of Ephesus:
“To the angel of the church in Ephesus write: ‘The words of him who holds the seven stars in his right hand, who walks among the seven golden lampstands. ‘I know your works, your toil and your patient endurance, and how you cannot bear with those who are evil, but have tested those who call themselves apostles and are not, and found them to be false. I know you are enduring patiently and bearing up for my name’s sake, and you have not grown weary. But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent.
Remember your dates? Remember what you talked about?
Repent—that means to turn from what you are doing now that made you abandon your love.
Do what you did before. Go on dates, talk, kiss.
It’s important to Jesus.
Why does God spend so much time on marriage in the Bible?
He created Adam to name the creatures, tend the Garden of Eden and have dominion over the earth. He also walked in the Garden of Eden with Adam during the cool of the day.
God created Eve to be a helpmate to Adam and to complete him.
They both walked with God in the cool of the day. The three of them.
Adam and Eve became one, and as they walked with God, they became one with God.
A union of man, woman and God. That’s the Christian walk. Unity.
Soon, Jesus is coming for His Bride, the church – that’s you and me.
Marriage is sacred to Jesus. Is it sacred to you?
This week, please write a love note to your spouse and do something you did when you first fell in love.
Please tell us what you did in the comment section and how you felt after you did it.
Father, thank You for the gift of marriage. You have given us a reflection of what our relationship with You will be one day. We are so blessed. I pray for the readers You bring to this post. Renew their love for You and for their spouses. Fill them with a passion to honor and show their love to each other and to You. Thank You, Jesus, for showing us how to love. Empower us to choose love. Thank You. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen
6 responses to “25 Ways Jesus Shows Love … How Are You Showing Your Love to Your Spouse?”
Indeed! God is good … All the time!
I am laughing out loud because the Lord just had me give someone a good but corrective word on their blog; I immediately came here and received this challenge from Him via you! You ask my thoughts: I think that you are obedient to Him in conveying this message to me! So long as you sincerely lift my husband and myself up in prayer, we know He’s answered it!! God bless you, sister! 💕
Deanna, I will be praying for you and your husband. God is good, and love is patient and kind. That means God is patient and kind as He leads you and your husband in the plans, the path, and the way you should go. Marriage is a reflection of our relationship with God. Your marriage is sacred. Relax, return to your first love, and watch God draw the two of you closer to each other and Him. God loves you both. Please keep me updated on how God is working. The Lord bless and keep you both. Karen
“Marriage is a reflection of our relationship with God.” – Yes!! My husband (saved but not realizing God has an inheritance for him to pursue) has been resisting the Lord through me ever since the Lord saved me (an intense Paulean-like conversion, perhaps you’ve read on the blog). Resting in Christ, I just keep letting the Lord change me, letting Him love my husband through me despite the intense periodic vitriol. Your statement I just quoted here is indeed what is occurring, for my husband loves Jesus way down deep in his core, but has very deep issues of resentment/bitterness from childhood that he must relinquish to the Lord. Years ago the Lord showed me my husband has a veil-like satin sheet over him, preventing him from allowing Jesus and I (one) to make love to him. It is so marvelous knowing what the Lord is doing, truly trusting and resting in Him, and knowing the gates of hades will NOT overcome this victory becoming manifest! Such joy we have in Christ IN the firey trials!! Such freedom in relying on HIM!
Deanna, You husband can be won over without a word from you. “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;” 1 Peter 3:1
No two people are at the same level with the Lord. We are to grow in the Lord, pray, and love actively. It’s up to the Holy Spirit to move in us and in others, even our husbands.
Father, bless Deanna and her husband with a tender love for You. Lead them by the right hand in the plans that You have for them. Give Deanna the peace that passes all understanding, and cause her to rest in You. You are love. Cause Deanna and her husband to rest in Your love. Amen
Amen! and thank you, dear sister. Appreciate your prayers greatly – it’s a done deal!