But Martha was distracted with all her preparations; and she came up to Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to do all the serving alone? Then tell her to help me.”  But the Lord answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things;  but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:40-42

The holidays are an exciting time for me, but for those in chronic pain or with a chronic illness, the holidays can cause added pain or fatigue. Like Martha, we tend to try to please everyone else and create a masterpiece meal and environment. As a consequence, we may push and crash and wind up in bed. When we do, we aren’t pleasing anyone, including ourselves.

What I’ve observed about myself is that I keep adding on additional tasks that aren’t necessary.


For Thanksgiving, I used to scurry around the house, cleaning, and cooking for about three days before Thanksgiving. The house would be filled with yummy smells, and the fridge would be packed. By the time Thanksgiving dinner arrived, I was pooped and in pain.


Christmas is the holiday that I kept adding more and more tasks. There are the many parties to attend, the cards to write, the gifts to buy, the decorations to put up, the cookies and cakes to buy, potlucks to cook for, and Christmas dinner to cook.

7 Tips

  1. Prioritize your goals. What is your most important goal for a holiday? You may think this is a silly question, but it really helps to consider this question. For me, it is to create an environment for the family to enjoy each other.
  2. Define the steps to achieve your goals. One step for me is to take care of myself so that I can focus on my family during the holiday, rather than wind up in bed with them focusing on me. That means that I may not send Christmas cards, or I may start addressing them in August.
  3. Pace yourself. Now that you have the steps to accomplish your goals, establish a timeline that empowers you to pace yourself. The timeline might include an appointed time each day to lie down for 20-30 minutes.
  4. Enlist support. Encourage your family to take part in the activities. You don’t have to accomplish everything yourself. Ask for help.
  5. Remember the reason for the holiday. In our flurry of activities, we often forget the reason for the holiday. Thanksgiving is to celebrate the freedom that the Pilgrims found in America and the freedom we have in America. We celebrate the birth of Jesus, our Savior, at Christmas.
  6. Sit down and enjoy your family and friends. At the holiday gathering, get out of the kitchen and sit down with your loved ones. Good food is nice, but they really want to be with you.
  7. Spend time with God. In the busyness of our preparations, we often neglect our relationships with God. He is the reason we are celebrating. Please invite Him to the holidays.

Mary knew what was most important. She sat at the foot of Jesus. Do you suppose that Jesus really cared what was for dinner? He fed 5,000 men from 2 fish and 5 loaves of bread.

My Prayer for you:

Father, this holiday season, I pray that we will focus upon our relationships with You and with our loved ones. May this holiday season be filled with much joy, love, and fellowship. Father, fill us with the knowledge and wonder of You and Your Son, Jesus.

How are you celebrating the holiday season and pacing yourself?

2 thoughts on “You can enjoy the holidays even with chronic pain: 7 tips

  1. Cindy, Just sent you an email. We’re good. Very stressful month and particularly, this week. May the Lord richly bless you and your husband, and may the love of Jesus fill you with an overwhelming sense of joy. Karen

  2. Karen how absolutely appropriate with your timing of this post! I had already started making some lists. And you are right I have to be so careful, not to go back to that other place! My sister is going to have her thyroid taken out on the 19th of December. She is waiting with full approval from her doctors because she has to be off from work for 2 full weeks. This will actually take her all the way thru the holidays and she can come back fresh in January. I went to my husband to ask him if we could go up early. I said” Holly is having her surgery on Thurs the 19th the week before Christmas because she has to be out of work for 2 weeks.” And before I could say anything, he said ok, we need to drive up the day before so you can be there and then we will just come home right after Christmas.!!!!!! Do I have the most wonderful husband?! I just had to share that with you since you are so madly in love with yours and I am so madly in love with mine still after over 34 years together. 32 1/2 yrs married.
    I didn’t hear anything back particularly after my very long email to you Sunday night. I trust I have not offended, dearest Karen. I wouldn’t do that for the world. If I did, please tell me, so that I can make my apology. …PLEASE…

    I guess because you have hurt like I have I find it easy to pour my heart out to you. I don’t usually share all of that financial or giving information-I know It’s a privated thing, but for some reason I was just compelled. so again, just wipe it from your memory banks. know that I love you in Christ and feel you are a very special woman. I can’t hardly to meet you face to face some day.

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