“This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends. You are My friends if you do what I command you.” John 15:12-14
What a precious promise—friends of Jesus. The only requirement is to love one another as Jesus loves us. His definition of this love is to lay our lives down for our friends.
Jesus laid aside His glory for a season as He entered the world as a baby in his mother’s womb. He taught the people, fed the people, healed the blind, raised the dead, turned water into wine, ate with sinners, and served others to exhaustion. He finished His work on earth by enduring beatings, whips, mocking, nails, shame, and the wrath of God … all for His friends, you and me.
What if we were to take the example of Jesus as we look at our marriages? A love-filled marriage requires that we lay our lives down for each other day-by-day, sometimes in small ways, other times in global ways. Think of it; if we choose to lay our lives down for our spouses, we are obeying the command of Jesus, and He considers us His friends.
When I was so sick with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome, my husband, Keith, took gentle care of me with no expectation of me. He tucked me into bed, kissed me, and darkened the room for me to get rest. He cooked; he mopped the floors; he bought the groceries; he took me to the doctor; he sat beside me; he held my hand, he prayed with me, and he loved me selflessly. Keith led me through the valley. He laid his life down for his friend—his wife.
Every day, there are many small opportunities for me to serve my husband, from the first kiss in the morning, to the last “goodnight.” Below are some ideas to bless your husband.
- Before you get out of bed in the morning, offer a prayer of thanksgiving for your husband and ask the Lord to bless him and walk with him throughout the day.
- Write a love note and sneak it into his lunch or briefcase.
- Call him at work and tell him you love him.
- When he snips at you, recognize that he may have had a rough day and bless him with a smile.
My prayer for you:
Father, what a wonderful promise You have given us—the opportunity to be the friend of Jesus. Lord, open our eyes to the opportunities that we have to demonstrate our love to our husbands. Go with us this week as we walk in love, laying down our lives for others, as your friend. Thank you, Father.
Share your insights:
Watch yourself as you interact with your husband this week. How do you show love? How are you shown love? Please share what you learn.